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Domestic Violence and the Workplace
Just thought people might be interested in knowing that domestic violence affects the workplace. Conservative estimates are the domestic violence costs businesses 3 to 5 billion a year in medical costs, and an additional $100 million in absenteeism, employee turnover, lost productivity, etc.

Workplaces can do a lot to help by working with local service providers to give employees information about local resources that can help them. Service providers can also help educate managers and employees about domestic violence and how to best help an employee who might be a victim or batterer.

Even placing posters in restrooms with the National Domestic Violence Hotline number (1-800-799-SAFE) on them could do a lot to help change (or perhaps even save) a life.

If you are interested in doing something about domestic violence, why not talk to your employer about getting involved? For more information, visit http://www.caepv.org.

Kim Wells
Bloomington, IL


Domestic violence
Did you know that domestic violence knows no boundaries? Many times, people think domestic violence affects only certain groups of people, such as African Americans, people on welfare, or uneducated people. In reality, women, and sometimes men, of all socio-economic, cultural, and religious backgrounds are affected by domestic violence.

Also, sometimes, people say, "Why didn't she just leave?" after a domestic violence situation escalates into physical abuse. Just thought you might like to know that, many times, a woman does try to leave, particularly if she thinks her children are at risk of injury. Unfortunately, this is when she is in the most danger - abusers are not willing to 'let her go' at any cost. In fact, I've known women who have left their abuser and moved into a new apartment, only to found by their abuser, who may attack, rape, or try to kill them.

So, if you know of someone who is in an abusive relationship, please understand her fear and suggest she call a domestic violence hotline to create a safety plan for her and, perhaps, her children as soon as possible.

Sheila
Belleville, IL


The Courts and the Illinois Domestic Violence Act
Since 1986 Illinois has had a broad and progressive Domestic Violence Act. One of its stated purposes is to remedy the widespread failure of the legal system to protect and assist victims of domestic violence. However, if the provisions of the Act are not implemented by the judiciary, then the Act has no teeth and the needs of survivors of domestic violence are not met. One of the biggest frustrations experienced by lawyers who practice in this area is to see their client belittled by a judge and denied relief that is available under the Act. As a result of marginalization by the courts, the survivor experiences further humiliation while the perpetrator of the abuse feels vindicated for his abusive acts. Children suffer when temporary child support and custody issues are not resolved. Perhaps if a special legal fund was available, then more survivors would appeal these unjustifiable restrictive rulings and the situation could be remedied.

Diane Speir
Carbondale Illinois


Abusers
message: I am still amazed how the society of So Illinois still protects, and in my case coddles the abuser! Wake up- some leopards do not change their spots.

Pomona, IL


Sorry I Called Police

I would like to say I am sorry I ever called the police on my partner for domestic violance. There are NO agencies in the entire area that will help with financial aid. I am unemployed, have NO income, and cannot get help from anyone, there are no agencies that will help to pay bills. I have shut off notice of everything, and no one will help. So I hope people will think twice about calling the police, if you are not employeed, no one will help you. If you have any suggestions where I can get help, please let me know. I do not want perminent help, only untill I can get back on my feet again, get a job, and get my life back together.

Geraldine Cannon
Iron River, Michigan


Domestic Violence

I'm sorry for all the people who are involved in domestic violence. I think it sucks and these women are so stupid for not telling anyone.
GET HELP NOW.
Don't wait.

Sarah
Kennewick, WA


Domestic Violence

Hi, I was a victim of domestic violence for about 3 years. I am glad to see that there are people like you that are at least trying to help women like me. But let me tell you that once you have been a victim ... it is very hard to recover. I have been trying for 3 years. I recently went to court due to this. My offender was arrested ... However, unfortunately for me law has a funny way of working. He was out on probation for 10 years, has to register as a sex offender, and gets to be out and about. Why? Only because, like the prosecuter said, "Unfortunately, these cases are very hard to prove. It's his word against yours". Only the ones that have been through something like this could imagine what I felt in that moment. Now he is free, with probation (great!!) and planning on how to kill me and our 2 1/2 year old son. I've moved on ... but the fear of him finding us is still in our lives. How or who will ever give us back that feeling of freedom and peacefulness? Of not having to hide or look over our shoulder every time we go out to the street. NOBODY..Thank you


Anonymous
El Paso, TX


IN THE PAST 4 YEARS I'VE BEEN IN 2 ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS. I KEEP ASKING MYSELF, " CAN THEY REALLY LOVE ME IF THEY ARE HITTING ME?" I FEEL LIKE I CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT ONE OF THESE MEN. I THINK I LOVE HIM VERY MUCH AND ITS KILLING TO THINK HE REALLY DOESN'T LOVE ME. I JUST PUT HIM IN JAIL FOR PUNCHING ME SO HARD HE PUT A DEEP CUT IN MY KIDNEY. AT FIRST HE WAS SORY BUT THEN TRIED TO HIT ME AGAIN. EVERTHING WE DID TO EACH OTHER -- I KNOW IT CAN'T BE LOVE. I JUST WANT TO GET HIM OUT OF MY LIFE FOR GOOD. BUT THEN AGAIN I DON'T -- I AM JUST SO CONFUSED. HELP ME BE SOMEONE INDEPENDENT AND STRONG.

CHRISTINA
NEW HAVEN CT


Don't ever be sorry
I saw the one young lady was sorry that she every called the cops. Well, you know what, I am not! I have put up with enough crap that it's time we stop being the victims. I have been a victim from the day I was born and I just turned 30. I have taken a stand and I'm not doing it anymore. I had everything a women could want or need and now I have taken the stand to be homeless, in order to save what I have of myself.The values of right and wrong and in the belief that humanity is not all bad. If I keep doing the right thing I truly believe that my life will change because bad can't happen all your life. If you were dealt a crappy hand then play the cards you do have to the best that you can. I can't lose that because if I do, then they won. All I can say to all of the people of any abuse is never let them win you. You can make them think that they won the battle but never never let them win the war.

Shirley
Anaheim, CA


Hi. I've just read all the messages on the message board...My heart goes out to each and every one of you. I was in an abusive relationship for 16 years. I'm now married to a wonderful man...working closely with the shelter for battered and rape victims. I know you feel like there is no help for you in this situation. I've been there but you must understand there are agencies. They may not be exactly where you want them to be, you might not get to stay in the location you want to stay in, but once you have made up your mind that you aren't accepting this life you will accept what and whereever. You can get the services to help you start a new life. Sometimes moving to a different location is the best way to start completely over. If you found this site you can continue to look for help which you will find. Staying only enables you accept any help at all...the choice is yours to make.

Debora
St. George, GA


When you're in an abusive relationship its very hard to get out of it even when you have family and friends backing you up. I have been in an abusive relationship for the past year and a half, and its horrible. I was always a strong independent young lady and for some reason this guy makes me weak. My family has gotten involved before but it just made things escalate and made me fear him more. I think he is really crazy and needs help but its hard to prove the things he does. I have been to the police before and they basically told me that if I call the police to press charges he has to be present for anything to really happen. If he is not present then he is just summoned to court. And like he has told me even if he is arrested they can't keep him in jail forever. Its a really tough situation for teenage girls and grown women to be in. I used to be the one telling my friends not to put up with this but now I know you can't really speak on it until you have been through it.

Long Island, NY
anonymous


I am sharing my thoughts in hopes I reach that one person. It wasn't until recently that I learned what a victim of domestic violence goes through. Not from my own experience, but through the voices of the other victims, the children. There is help to be found. It is easy for people to say " just leave", but for most victims, it is easier to stay and take the beatings and have the bills paid. Knowing you don't have to take it is the first step to surviving. If you think your children are sleeping or in the bedroom not listening, you're wrong. Just a child being in the home while this crime is being committed makes them a victim. You're not the only one hurting, your child/children are too. Look for the help in your area and don't give up. You can survive. WE THE POLICE CAN ONLY DO SO MUCH. YOU HAVE TO TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE AND TAKE BACK THE CONTROL.

Killeen, Tx
Keith E.


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